Giving up the need to be RIGHT.

This year I learned an important lesson.  I finally decided that being "right" doesn't really matter.  This doesn't mean that I don't have a point of view, it just means that I don't feel the intense need to defend my point of view to others anymore.  Sometimes I forget this lesson, and I feel myself starting to argue my point or mentally criticizing others for their point of view.  I am learning that someone else can have a drastically different point of view from my own and that it doesn't make them WRONG.  It just means that their experience has given them a different perspective.  It doesn't have to make sense to me.  It doesn't have to seem logical to me.  It doesn't have to meet my standards.  I don't have to be RIGHT and "they" don't have to be WRONG.  We can agree or disagree and it doesn't make me better or worse at the end of the day.  It is very freeing to give up on the RIGHT-fighting.  It takes a lot of energy to try to change someone else's mind.  So, instead, I'll spend my energy on my own thoughts and attitude and I'll let others see the world through their own lenses.